Family dynamics

Family dynamics



Meeting my birth mother

My mother chose not to hold or even see me after I was born, as she knew she wouldn't be able to let me go.

Negotiating flexible visitation

I need some tips on how to approach my ex about getting to spend the odd day with my son outside of my scheduled times.

Tiny moments of connection

Do you often feel guilty over the amount of time you don't spend with your kids? Don't underestimate the power of tiny moments of connection.

Sorting out custody

I'm going through a divorce and my ex and I are leaning towards joint custody. A friend says this never works. What should I do?

Struggling stepmum

I really like my new husband's kids, but they treat me horribly. He tends to take their side. I'm worried our marriage is doomed.


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Will I see my children turn 40?

As someone who was very blase about having kids, I was surprised at the pang I had thinking I might not see them in middle age.


The stresses of parenthood

Not everyone is cut out to be a parent. Some people are unable to deal with the emotional rollercoaster of raising a family.


Unsure step-grandparent

My son has just remarried and now has four stepkids. I'm having trouble accepting his new family. Where do I start?


The fun of running

Four-year-old Miss K is desperate to come along on a fun run, but can she run 4km? She and her mum go on a test run to find out.

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How I learnt to relax about routines

After many routine-led, tough years, we've realised that parenting isn't about being perfect and we're learning to go with the flow.


My dodgiest parenting moments

If my kids grow up expecting me - or any other person - to get everything right, then they've got a lot of disappointment coming their way.

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Siblings make boys selfless: study

Encouraging siblings to be friends has lasting effects on their wellbeing - especially for boys.


'Mum, who do you like best?'

The quest for four little words drives my children to the brink of nearly every one of their self-made disasters. 'I like you best.'

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The extended family

Watching the girls play with their cousins got me thinking about my role as an uncle.

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Stepmum has had enough

My husband's ex wants us to have their kids more often. I feel I am doing as much as I can, so I have refused. Am I being unreasonable?


My parents criticise how I parent

My parents recently moved in with us. They've started criticising how I parent my children. How can I get them to stop?


How to parent post-divorce

I'm a newly divorced single father. I'm worried the divorce is going to mess my kids up for life. What can I do?

mum and toddler

Seven joys of single parenthood

Single parenthood is hard. Everyone knows that. But there is an upside to single parenthood, and it is both joyful, and uniquely rewarding.

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The importance of grandparents

There is definitely potential to take advantage of what could be dubbed the Grandparental Babysitting Society.

miss K and miss A

A settled patch

In the last few months the girls have developed a really nice relationship. There's been a gradual reduction in them competing for their parents' attention.

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