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Created by gabriellenlewis at 12:27 AM, 24 Oct 2014
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Home work not tablet or TV

I'm not a mum, I'm a dad, I have a 9 year old that would rather play on the tablet, looking after dragons, or watching tv, but the tablet comes first. On weekends its all day. As for the homework its been, oh I forgot my homework book, the teacher didn't give us any etc etc. We have moved to a new area and he's fitted in well so I don't see that as the big issue and the teacher thought he was very smart, his maths, she puts him in the next grade up when they do it because she said he won't learn anything in his class, she even gave him a quiz book to do as home work but after doing the first two pages it's now gathering dust. I myself, as a dad don't want him to lose what he has to stupid machines. I know tablets, computers etc are really going to be part of his life in the future. So please anyone have some good working ideas cause he's going to be 10 soon and all I see is that he has 2 years before intermediate and I don't want him to waste it. Thanks all
Last comment by gabriellenlewis at 12:26 AM, 24 Oct 2014
37

HOW TO GET PREGNANT

Hubby and I are going to resume TTC soon, and I want us to do everything we can to succeed, that's possible! Some couples are lucky and don't need to put a lot of hard thinking into getting pregnant. Other couples like us, who have limited chances of getting pregnant naturally (I have endo, scarring and ovarian cysts), so a little more thought and preparation is required. I'd love to hear your advice mums, on what you did to prepare for pregnancy. Theses are the things I (think I) know so far - I'm going to state the obvious too: * Have sex a day before and a couple of days after ovulation. Ovulation is imminent when your temperature drops slightly, around 14 days after the first day of your period (if you have a 'regular' 28 day cycle). So monitor your periods, and temperature every morning when you wake up - same time, with a mouth thermometer. * Don't abstain from sex before this - fresh spermies are good! * Refrain from drinking a lot of coffee when TTC - caffeine can prevent the egg from maturing. * Don't use lubes like KY when TTC - they're not sperm friendly - use sperm friendly brands if you must. * Avoid drinking, recreational and unnecessary prescription drugs when TTC. ('Cept I know heaps of women who conceived when plastered!) * Sperm ejaculated is produced in the testes 3 months prior - so it helps for blokes to stay healthy - eating well and exercising, ease up on alcohol etc, from 3 months prior - so there are healthy sperm and less damaged = more chance of a successful fertilisation and then pregnancy. * Have sex in the evening so more sperm remains in the vjay? I'd be so grateful if you could share your opinions with me on how to get pregnant. I think some women are afraid to ask these things for fear of feeling/looking stupid. I'm not! Thanks in advance :-)
Last comment by Palmychick00 at 9:06 PM, 21 Oct 2014
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IUI success rates

We have been TTC for 4 years (un-explained infertility & 5 m/c) and have our first round of IUI planned for April. I'm really nervous as I've spent too much time on Google and discovered the success rates can be quite low, unfortunately we can't afford IVF this year. Could we be wasting our money trying IUI, should we keep saving for IVF? I will also be 40 in July so time is not on our side.
Last comment by Palmychick00 at 9:02 PM, 21 Oct 2014

Pregnancy

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HOW TO GET PREGNANT

Hubby and I are going to resume TTC soon, and I want us to do everything we can to succeed, that's possible! Some couples are lucky and don't need to put a lot of hard thinking into getting pregnant. Other couples like us, who have limited chances of getting pregnant naturally (I have endo, scarring and ovarian cysts), so a little more thought and preparation is required. I'd love to hear your advice mums, on what you did to prepare for pregnancy. Theses are the things I (think I) know so far - I'm going to state the obvious too: * Have sex a day before and a couple of days after ovulation. Ovulation is imminent when your temperature drops slightly, around 14 days after the first day of your period (if you have a 'regular' 28 day cycle). So monitor your periods, and temperature every morning when you wake up - same time, with a mouth thermometer. * Don't abstain from sex before this - fresh spermies are good! * Refrain from drinking a lot of coffee when TTC - caffeine can prevent the egg from maturing. * Don't use lubes like KY when TTC - they're not sperm friendly - use sperm friendly brands if you must. * Avoid drinking, recreational and unnecessary prescription drugs when TTC. ('Cept I know heaps of women who conceived when plastered!) * Sperm ejaculated is produced in the testes 3 months prior - so it helps for blokes to stay healthy - eating well and exercising, ease up on alcohol etc, from 3 months prior - so there are healthy sperm and less damaged = more chance of a successful fertilisation and then pregnancy. * Have sex in the evening so more sperm remains in the vjay? I'd be so grateful if you could share your opinions with me on how to get pregnant. I think some women are afraid to ask these things for fear of feeling/looking stupid. I'm not! Thanks in advance :-)
Last comment by Palmychick00 at 9:06 PM, 21 Oct 2014
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Help! - How long is too long to wait after depo?

My Partner and I are TTC with the "lets see what happens" type goal, but as he starts to want kids more and more I am starting to get a bit worried.. I'm only in my early 20's and I was on the depo jab for just over 3 years, with my last jab being due in august last year and i still havent had a period yet let alone anything else.. I know that it can take a long time to conceive after being on depo for such a period of time, I was just wondering if anyone knows how long should i be waiting before consulting with someone further about it, Ive read so many horror stories online about people becoming sterile after being on the depo for so long, and before I went to depo I was on the pill so its been years since I've even had a period. Can someone please give me some advice?
Last comment by tekeshiafrank at 4:14 PM, 21 Oct 2014

Baby

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How can I get her to take a bottle???

My darling littlest baby girl, now 8 weeks, is losing weight. She has a kidney condition, so is on antibiotics daily, for the first year of her life, or surgery, whichever comes first. She is breastfed, and latches on so easy, feeds beautifully, sleeps well, is placid and just a dream baby. BUT she is losing weight and has been for the last 4 weeks. My midwife and gp have suggested topping her up with a bottle, so we tried expressing after a feed til I had a decent amount, and would try giving her a bottle of BM once a day, which she wouldn't take. We tried all sorts of bottles, all sorts of teats, me, dad, and different people trying to feed her, different times of day, all sorts of things. Even tried using two types of formula to see if that would help. We've had really limited success, my mother got about 75 ml into her one night, and then about 2 weeks later, when a good friend was trying (again) she got 150ml of BM and then 80ml of formula into her. I need some tips please people. The fact that she has a chronic condition makes her weight loss quite a concern, yet all the lactation consultants, nurses, mothers groups, nursing groups, etc that I have rung and pleaded for advice, have basically told me that breast is best, and trying anything else is unfair to my baby, it will confuse her, interrupt my flow etc etc etc etc. I have been given domperidone from the gp to try and increase my flow, no luck so far, my BF made me some lactation cookies (she's awesome) but I am really struggling. I don't need to hear any more negative 'you're a bad person for trying a bottle' comments, I have quite happily breastfed my other children, I know breastmilk coming from a healthy mum is best for the baby IF mum can breastfeed, I know it creates a wonderful bond and so on. I need help with having her latch onto a bottle. I love breastfeeding her, and am not talking of giving up, but my baby is sick and losing weight, she needs more food. All I want is to be able to top her up with a bottle once or twice a day. Please help!!
Last comment by Charpeaches at 9:10 PM, 22 Jul 2014
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Nappy Rash

Baby girl 10 weeks old is repeatedly getting nappy rash.. didn't really suffer this with my 2 boys. Doing the usual water and as much nappy free time as possible.. does anyone else have any ideas for preventing it? I'm not sure why she's getting it more than the 2 boys.. is it something i'm eating?
Last comment by KipT at 9:10 AM, 16 Jan 2014

Little kids

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Natural bathing products

Hi there I need some help, I have a 14 month old who has very sensitive skin and suffers from excema and wondering if anyone has suggestions for some natural products to use on her skin and hair. Any recommendations would be much appreciated. Many thanks
Last comment by deenamathew at 9:17 PM, 22 Aug 2014
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What do you do for childcare?

I'd be really interested to know what you mums do for childcare - when you first go back to work (assuming you do), when they are in school etc. Creche, au pairs, nannies? What's common in NZ? :)
Last comment by MiaCC at 8:50 PM, 5 May 2014

Big kids

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PLEASE fill out this SHORT (4 questions) survey for my Dissertation research...

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Created by gabriellenlewis at 12:27 AM, 24 Oct 2014
1

Home work not tablet or TV

I'm not a mum, I'm a dad, I have a 9 year old that would rather play on the tablet, looking after dragons, or watching tv, but the tablet comes first. On weekends its all day. As for the homework its been, oh I forgot my homework book, the teacher didn't give us any etc etc. We have moved to a new area and he's fitted in well so I don't see that as the big issue and the teacher thought he was very smart, his maths, she puts him in the next grade up when they do it because she said he won't learn anything in his class, she even gave him a quiz book to do as home work but after doing the first two pages it's now gathering dust. I myself, as a dad don't want him to lose what he has to stupid machines. I know tablets, computers etc are really going to be part of his life in the future. So please anyone have some good working ideas cause he's going to be 10 soon and all I see is that he has 2 years before intermediate and I don't want him to waste it. Thanks all
Last comment by gabriellenlewis at 12:26 AM, 24 Oct 2014

Family life

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Are fathers important in their childrens lives?

My personal opinion is that yes they are very important. Which is why I was surprised to find this "parenting" site so PINK! I looked up pink to see what it meant and found this on the web : "pink is associated with sexuality, and purity. That is, a girl who is a virgin in heart and body." We, why are we going with a parenting sites designed for virgin's?? How about a more neutral colour and making a few dads feel welcome here. Maybe a change in name too like the posts in the Essential Dads thread that got shut down for some reason. Just my opinion. Was interested to know how other dads and mum felt about it?
Last comment by lanes at 1:28 PM, 28 Aug 2014
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I want another baby - husband doesn't...

I am after a little advice. I am 36 and so definately fall in the older mum category... I met my husband 4 years ago and we discussed having children. He already had an 8yo from a previous relationship that is with us 50/50. I told him that I really wanted 4 kids, but would settle for 3 considering 'we' already had one. He told me that I could have as many as I wanted. Once we got engaged we talked about it again. I told him I wanted 3 biological and he said he wanted 1 more only. I told him that I did not want my child to be growing up alone (as their half sister would be over 10 years older so almost another parent, plus only with us half the time) and so I compromised again and said that I would agree to having 2 as a minimum and I wouldn't compromise again as I wanted 2 close together in age so they could play together. He agreed. We then got married and I now have a 21month old. I am wanting to TTC next year and had the discussion and was told that he had changed his mind, and doesnt' want any more, and I can't force someone to have a child when they don't want one. When I told him that he agreed prior to us getting married he told me that everyone can change their minds and he would prefer to pay the mortgage off faster than have another child. I am devestated. I feel like my family is incomplete, and I have no options as my husband says that he won't budge and will seriously have to look at our marriage if I push the issue... I only want my husband's children and I have no time to find another Mr right at my age anyway... I never wanted an only child which is pretty much what I have... and I don't want to 'accidentally' fall pregnant... anyone else been through this????
Last comment by at 10:28 PM, 15 Aug 2014

Mum's life

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Stay at home mum? Earn an Income?

Would anyone be interested in setting up a home based business? It is ideal for mums who want to stay at home with their children. If you would like to know more about this opportunity please send me a private message. I look forward to hearing from you. Laura x
Last comment by behappy.me at 8:35 PM, 21 Oct 2014
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A fantastic opportunity for stay at home mums to make money (and friends)

It Works is launching in NZ and Australia on 1st November 2014. As well as their fantastic body wraps they have a huge range of skincare, body care and health goods. Once they launch in NZ it'll be huge. If you're interested and want more info, please contact me at wrapthatwithwendy@gmail.com or www.wrapthatwithwendy.com.
Created by wendyphillips at 8:23 PM, 19 Oct 2014

General

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Anyone looked into cloth nappies?

I bought my first set of cloth nappies from a stand at a Parent & Child Expo. It was great becuase I could look, touch and try them, and ask questions. It was just one brand though, and there are so many different brands and styles and things to think about. Looking online just doesn't cut it becuase you can't compare and play with them. In the end I spent quite a chunk of money buying a variety from TradeMe before I settled on the system I was going to use. I wondered if this dificulty was a factor for other parents. Disposables aren't just convenient to use, they take absolutely no time at all to work out. And the cost benefits of cloth aren't that great if you go through the process I followed. What has your experience been? Did you consider cloth at all? If you use cloth, which ones do you use? If not, why did you choose disposables - just convenience, or were their other reasons too? NB people make the decisions that sit their own families, so disposables and cloth are just as good as each other in my opinion.
Last comment by MamaScamps at 10:00 PM, 28 Nov 2013
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Essential Dads?

So, even though I'm a stay at home dad of a 9 month old baby, I guess I can't engage here. Because this is a site for mums only... or have I missed something?
Last comment by simoragn at 10:07 AM, 29 Oct 2012
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