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Help! - How long is too long to wait after depo?

My Partner and I are TTC with the "lets see what happens" type goal, but as he starts to want kids more and more I am starting to get a bit worried.. I'm only in my early 20's and I was on the depo jab for just over 3 years, with my last jab being due in august last year and i still havent had a period yet let alone anything else.. I know that it can take a long time to conceive after being on depo for such a period of time, I was just wondering if anyone knows how long should i be waiting before consulting with someone further about it, Ive read so many horror stories online about people becoming sterile after being on the depo for so long, and before I went to depo I was on the pill so its been years since I've even had a period. Can someone please give me some advice?
Last comment by at 8:13 AM, 29 Sep 2014
67

Devasted every month / need some encouragement

Hi all, I have been TTC for about 9 months with no luck. Just took a pregnancy test this morning and it was negative. I was distraught. Every month I become convinced I am pregnant, and finding out I am not is so heart breaking. I really don't know what is wrong. I have had regular periods from day 1, and my husband got a sperm test and his count was way above average. My sisters both got pregnant with not much trying and my mum had six kids without even knowing about ovulation or anything. My cousins are so fertile, and most of them have had lots of kids, so I come from a family of great breeders. I have only been on the pill for about 1 month in my life, and that was years ago. I am pretty healthy (don't excersis enough, but eat well). Don't smoke and have all over good health. I just don't know what to do next or where to get help or advice. I went to the doc and she ordered and blood test to see if I had ovulated and I had. I do wonder if my sex drive is hindering us conceiving, it is very low and I struggle with having sex every 2nd day for the whole cycle. I am turning 31 in less than a week and I am losing hope this is going to happen for us naturally. Has anyone had a similar experience that could give me some advice and/or encouragement?
Last comment by Camille Valdez at 8:43 PM, 28 Sep 2014
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Does anyone else hate being a stay-at-home mum (or dad)?

I have searched the internet, and can't find much for mothers that hate being stay-at-home mums (especially not in NZ). Is there anyone else out there that feels that way? From the way people talk on forums I get the idea this is not a problem for anyone else; but I thought I would reach out to see if anyone had something to say on the topic. Be interested to hear what you have to say.
Last comment by Palmychick00 at 11:50 AM, 28 Sep 2014
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Creating a Baby Nursery

Creating a Baby Nursery Creating a baby nursery seems simple, and therefore is left for the last minute before the baby arrives. However, if parents want their baby nursery to be a cozy place that they can retreat to with their little one, they should prepare their nursery early. Along with pregnancy advice, there are those people who will give advice about all the things a nursery needs and the list can quickly add up. In order to save money by avoiding spending it on unnecessary items, parents should itemize their list into needs and wants so they can ensure that they purchase all their needs and if there is room in the budget they can purchase some of the wants as well. After all the effort of creating a perfect nursery, the baby is not going to remember what their room looked like, but it is important for parents to have a place of peace for them and the baby, and let’s face it, there is nothing cozier than a baby nursery. Bedding Babies do not necessarily need a full bedding set, especially since it is recommended that babies only sleep on a thin sheet to prevent suffocation. But most mothers are not satisfied with the look of a thin sheet on a mattress, so there are ways to keep the baby safe as well as make the crib look put together. Sheets are vital, and parents should purchase several sets, as babies will go through them often. In order to glam up a crib and its many sheets, according to Honest to Nod, a quilt draped stylishly over the side of the crib can add texture and comfort. Crib bedding sets the tone of the room as far as colors, so parents should choose bedding colors that are easily accented with other décor. The essentials The changing area is where most of the excitement takes place in a baby nursery, so it is smart for parents to keep everything they need within arms reach of the changing table. For important items that should not be in the baby’s reach, putting them on a decorative shelf is a great way to add style as well as safety to the area. Stimulating décor should be hung in places where the baby can see it when they are laying on the changing table. A changing table acts as a great storage unit and can be organized with stylish baskets. As long as parents do not have to step away from the baby to reach essential items they are good to go! Baby libraries Parents under estimate the importance of a cozy rocker. Babies loved to be rocked and talked to, so while they might not understand the story line, reading to a baby while rocking them to sleep can be their favorite pastime. Babies are exhausting so when they are sleeping in your arms it is nice to be in a cozy rocker so maybe you can get some sleep too! Interior Decorating and Remodeling News brought to you by baseboardradiatorcovers.com Source: blog.landofnod.com/honest-to-nod/2012/03/baby-steps-to-building-a-nursery.html Tags: home remodeling, home renovation, home décor, interior design, baby nurseries, nursery needs
Created by auroramacul at 9:11 PM, 23 Sep 2014

Pregnancy

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Help! - How long is too long to wait after depo?

My Partner and I are TTC with the "lets see what happens" type goal, but as he starts to want kids more and more I am starting to get a bit worried.. I'm only in my early 20's and I was on the depo jab for just over 3 years, with my last jab being due in august last year and i still havent had a period yet let alone anything else.. I know that it can take a long time to conceive after being on depo for such a period of time, I was just wondering if anyone knows how long should i be waiting before consulting with someone further about it, Ive read so many horror stories online about people becoming sterile after being on the depo for so long, and before I went to depo I was on the pill so its been years since I've even had a period. Can someone please give me some advice?
Last comment by at 8:13 AM, 29 Sep 2014
67

Devasted every month / need some encouragement

Hi all, I have been TTC for about 9 months with no luck. Just took a pregnancy test this morning and it was negative. I was distraught. Every month I become convinced I am pregnant, and finding out I am not is so heart breaking. I really don't know what is wrong. I have had regular periods from day 1, and my husband got a sperm test and his count was way above average. My sisters both got pregnant with not much trying and my mum had six kids without even knowing about ovulation or anything. My cousins are so fertile, and most of them have had lots of kids, so I come from a family of great breeders. I have only been on the pill for about 1 month in my life, and that was years ago. I am pretty healthy (don't excersis enough, but eat well). Don't smoke and have all over good health. I just don't know what to do next or where to get help or advice. I went to the doc and she ordered and blood test to see if I had ovulated and I had. I do wonder if my sex drive is hindering us conceiving, it is very low and I struggle with having sex every 2nd day for the whole cycle. I am turning 31 in less than a week and I am losing hope this is going to happen for us naturally. Has anyone had a similar experience that could give me some advice and/or encouragement?
Last comment by Camille Valdez at 8:43 PM, 28 Sep 2014

Baby

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How can I get her to take a bottle???

My darling littlest baby girl, now 8 weeks, is losing weight. She has a kidney condition, so is on antibiotics daily, for the first year of her life, or surgery, whichever comes first. She is breastfed, and latches on so easy, feeds beautifully, sleeps well, is placid and just a dream baby. BUT she is losing weight and has been for the last 4 weeks. My midwife and gp have suggested topping her up with a bottle, so we tried expressing after a feed til I had a decent amount, and would try giving her a bottle of BM once a day, which she wouldn't take. We tried all sorts of bottles, all sorts of teats, me, dad, and different people trying to feed her, different times of day, all sorts of things. Even tried using two types of formula to see if that would help. We've had really limited success, my mother got about 75 ml into her one night, and then about 2 weeks later, when a good friend was trying (again) she got 150ml of BM and then 80ml of formula into her. I need some tips please people. The fact that she has a chronic condition makes her weight loss quite a concern, yet all the lactation consultants, nurses, mothers groups, nursing groups, etc that I have rung and pleaded for advice, have basically told me that breast is best, and trying anything else is unfair to my baby, it will confuse her, interrupt my flow etc etc etc etc. I have been given domperidone from the gp to try and increase my flow, no luck so far, my BF made me some lactation cookies (she's awesome) but I am really struggling. I don't need to hear any more negative 'you're a bad person for trying a bottle' comments, I have quite happily breastfed my other children, I know breastmilk coming from a healthy mum is best for the baby IF mum can breastfeed, I know it creates a wonderful bond and so on. I need help with having her latch onto a bottle. I love breastfeeding her, and am not talking of giving up, but my baby is sick and losing weight, she needs more food. All I want is to be able to top her up with a bottle once or twice a day. Please help!!
Last comment by Charpeaches at 9:10 PM, 22 Jul 2014
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Nappy Rash

Baby girl 10 weeks old is repeatedly getting nappy rash.. didn't really suffer this with my 2 boys. Doing the usual water and as much nappy free time as possible.. does anyone else have any ideas for preventing it? I'm not sure why she's getting it more than the 2 boys.. is it something i'm eating?
Last comment by KipT at 9:10 AM, 16 Jan 2014

Little kids

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Natural bathing products

Hi there I need some help, I have a 14 month old who has very sensitive skin and suffers from excema and wondering if anyone has suggestions for some natural products to use on her skin and hair. Any recommendations would be much appreciated. Many thanks
Last comment by deenamathew at 9:17 PM, 22 Aug 2014
35

What do you do for childcare?

I'd be really interested to know what you mums do for childcare - when you first go back to work (assuming you do), when they are in school etc. Creche, au pairs, nannies? What's common in NZ? :)
Last comment by MiaCC at 8:50 PM, 5 May 2014

Big kids

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Bible Studies and Opting Out

I read the article about Jeff McClintock objecting to the Bibles in Schools programme reducing teaching/learning time with interest. This issue resonates with me as we are currently living in a small rural community and my son is the only child in our local school to be opted out of the programme. As such, there is one morning a week where he starts the school day at 9.30am as the school have no provision for children not in the programme. He struggles to understand why he is different to the rest of the class as kids being kids, a number of them tease him for being late. He is a very quiet child and uncomfortable with attention so it makes it all the more difficult to try and slip into the class with the minimum of fuss. My personal view is that State run schools should be secular and I am staunchly opposed to the Bibles in Schools programme but with my older child the experience of opting out was seamless and easy. He was at a Primary School where the programme was run after lunch, was actively promoted to parents as being entirely voluntary and the kids who didn't participate were allowed to visit the library for half an hour. There was never an issue and my son was never made to feel different or weird. But all this being said, it is our choice to opt out and clearly we have to accept the consequences, but where is this teaching time made up? During Term 1 alone we have had a couple of half days due to Parent Teacher Interviews, School Athletics and at least two Teachers Only Days (apparently Easter Tuesday is now an official school holiday??!!). I am fortunate in that I have been able to shuffle my work days around to suit but I really do question how we would have been able to manage had my hubby and I both still been working full time. And most importantly, the pupils are still missing out on 20 hours teaching a year so I'm right behind you on this Jeff - I struggle to understand how and why we are just expected to accept this without question?
Last comment by hillbillygirl at 2:07 PM, 23 Mar 2014
10

What's the Tooth Fairy's going rate these days?

The son of a friend of mine lost his first tooth while staying at his grandparents. The tooth fairy there decided to give him $20 (!!!) for the tooth. Not a great precedent, and now he's got a second tooth loose, his parents want to know what a more realistic price might be. Any suggestions?
Last comment by AnKi at 4:30 PM, 10 Mar 2014

Family life

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Are fathers important in their childrens lives?

My personal opinion is that yes they are very important. Which is why I was surprised to find this "parenting" site so PINK! I looked up pink to see what it meant and found this on the web : "pink is associated with sexuality, and purity. That is, a girl who is a virgin in heart and body." We, why are we going with a parenting sites designed for virgin's?? How about a more neutral colour and making a few dads feel welcome here. Maybe a change in name too like the posts in the Essential Dads thread that got shut down for some reason. Just my opinion. Was interested to know how other dads and mum felt about it?
Last comment by lanes at 1:28 PM, 28 Aug 2014
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I want another baby - husband doesn't...

I am after a little advice. I am 36 and so definately fall in the older mum category... I met my husband 4 years ago and we discussed having children. He already had an 8yo from a previous relationship that is with us 50/50. I told him that I really wanted 4 kids, but would settle for 3 considering 'we' already had one. He told me that I could have as many as I wanted. Once we got engaged we talked about it again. I told him I wanted 3 biological and he said he wanted 1 more only. I told him that I did not want my child to be growing up alone (as their half sister would be over 10 years older so almost another parent, plus only with us half the time) and so I compromised again and said that I would agree to having 2 as a minimum and I wouldn't compromise again as I wanted 2 close together in age so they could play together. He agreed. We then got married and I now have a 21month old. I am wanting to TTC next year and had the discussion and was told that he had changed his mind, and doesnt' want any more, and I can't force someone to have a child when they don't want one. When I told him that he agreed prior to us getting married he told me that everyone can change their minds and he would prefer to pay the mortgage off faster than have another child. I am devestated. I feel like my family is incomplete, and I have no options as my husband says that he won't budge and will seriously have to look at our marriage if I push the issue... I only want my husband's children and I have no time to find another Mr right at my age anyway... I never wanted an only child which is pretty much what I have... and I don't want to 'accidentally' fall pregnant... anyone else been through this????
Last comment by at 10:28 PM, 15 Aug 2014

Mum's life

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Does anyone else hate being a stay-at-home mum (or dad)?

I have searched the internet, and can't find much for mothers that hate being stay-at-home mums (especially not in NZ). Is there anyone else out there that feels that way? From the way people talk on forums I get the idea this is not a problem for anyone else; but I thought I would reach out to see if anyone had something to say on the topic. Be interested to hear what you have to say.
Last comment by Palmychick00 at 11:50 AM, 28 Sep 2014
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work/children balance

Hi everyone, I am a 25 y.o. my partner and I are planning to conceive during the last leg of writing my ph.d. I will be finished sometime during 2014. I would like to take a year or two out to raise baby, then perhaps look into beginning a career in my field on a part-time basis. What are other Mums experiences with juggling career and children and how did you decide to manage the two? Do you have any opinions on whether you should have stable career before beginning a family, or should it be the other way around? I'd love to know what other people are doing/ have done!
Last comment by Miyuki Su at 2:40 PM, 7 Oct 2013

General

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Anyone looked into cloth nappies?

I bought my first set of cloth nappies from a stand at a Parent & Child Expo. It was great becuase I could look, touch and try them, and ask questions. It was just one brand though, and there are so many different brands and styles and things to think about. Looking online just doesn't cut it becuase you can't compare and play with them. In the end I spent quite a chunk of money buying a variety from TradeMe before I settled on the system I was going to use. I wondered if this dificulty was a factor for other parents. Disposables aren't just convenient to use, they take absolutely no time at all to work out. And the cost benefits of cloth aren't that great if you go through the process I followed. What has your experience been? Did you consider cloth at all? If you use cloth, which ones do you use? If not, why did you choose disposables - just convenience, or were their other reasons too? NB people make the decisions that sit their own families, so disposables and cloth are just as good as each other in my opinion.
Last comment by MamaScamps at 10:00 PM, 28 Nov 2013
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Essential Dads?

So, even though I'm a stay at home dad of a 9 month old baby, I guess I can't engage here. Because this is a site for mums only... or have I missed something?
Last comment by simoragn at 10:07 AM, 29 Oct 2012
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