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Just off the pill - is this normal?

Hi ladies, I am new to these forums :) Hubby and I came off the pill (Ginet) just over a month ago after being on it for approx 12 years. About 5 days after my last pill (mid-packet) I had a heavy withdrawal bleed, very typical of my usual bleeds on the sugar pills which I normally took every second pack. Its been about 38 days and still no period, despite cramping almost every day for the past couple of weeks. I also cramped about 2 weeks after my withdrawal bleed started which I thought may have been ovulation pain. With all this cramping I took a couple of pregnancy tests last week and they were negative. The cramping is typical of my 'periods' while on the pill, but there is also a bit of lower back pain, and today a feeling of constipation or gas (although I am taking iodine which can do this). I am 29 and from what I can remember of my periods before the pill, they were like clock work, and I was always conscious of never skipping any more than 2-3 bleeds on the pill. I know I've only been off the pill for a reasonably short time, but is what I'm experiencing normal?? I feel like my period is here every day with this cramping and acne etc, but there is just nothing. Its frustrating not knowing what my body is doing and how to calculate ovulation etc. For someone who stresses pretty easily, this isn't helping! I really worry that 12 years on the pill has been hiding something very wrong downstairs.
Last comment by Clara at 5:43 PM, 2 Sep 2014
0

Midwife recommendations in Whanganui

Hey there, hoping I can get some advice about great midwives in Whanganui. Have referral to Obsetrician as my LMC (due to complications) but really keen on a natural homebirth if possible and really want input from a great midwife despite needing other medical attention. Any recommendations greatly appreciated!
Created by kdb1 at 10:39 AM, 2 Sep 2014
2

Cloth nappies driving me nuts!

I really don't understand how cloth nappy people manage. I swear my 4 month old is a continuous stream of pee. I go to put a dry nappy on her to put her to bed, and she pees on the change table. I clean her up and put the nappy on, and she pees all over it as I'm doing it up. I take it off and get a fresh one, put it on, put her in bed, and she pees out the leg and all over the bedding. I give up and change her into a disposable and a clean swaddle. Then I have to rock her to sleep because by now she is really grumpy. She only sleeps for 40 mins so the disposable lasts until I'm ready to put her to bed the next time. End result: I have a hamper full of wet nappies to wash and I've STILL used just as many disposables as I would have had I not bothered with the cloth ones. What can I do differently to make this work?
Last comment by DeeDee at 9:55 PM, 1 Sep 2014
3

Does anyone else hate being a stay-at-home mum (or dad)?

I have searched the internet, and can't find much for mothers that hate being stay-at-home mums (especially not in NZ). Is there anyone else out there that feels that way? From the way people talk on forums I get the idea this is not a problem for anyone else; but I thought I would reach out to see if anyone had something to say on the topic. Be interested to hear what you have to say.
Last comment by at 5:25 PM, 1 Sep 2014

Pregnancy

16

Just off the pill - is this normal?

Hi ladies, I am new to these forums :) Hubby and I came off the pill (Ginet) just over a month ago after being on it for approx 12 years. About 5 days after my last pill (mid-packet) I had a heavy withdrawal bleed, very typical of my usual bleeds on the sugar pills which I normally took every second pack. Its been about 38 days and still no period, despite cramping almost every day for the past couple of weeks. I also cramped about 2 weeks after my withdrawal bleed started which I thought may have been ovulation pain. With all this cramping I took a couple of pregnancy tests last week and they were negative. The cramping is typical of my 'periods' while on the pill, but there is also a bit of lower back pain, and today a feeling of constipation or gas (although I am taking iodine which can do this). I am 29 and from what I can remember of my periods before the pill, they were like clock work, and I was always conscious of never skipping any more than 2-3 bleeds on the pill. I know I've only been off the pill for a reasonably short time, but is what I'm experiencing normal?? I feel like my period is here every day with this cramping and acne etc, but there is just nothing. Its frustrating not knowing what my body is doing and how to calculate ovulation etc. For someone who stresses pretty easily, this isn't helping! I really worry that 12 years on the pill has been hiding something very wrong downstairs.
Last comment by Clara at 5:43 PM, 2 Sep 2014
28

Enjoying pregnancy?

I'm excited about having my baby in a few months. But, I'm not enjoying pregnancy. I have friends who gush and swoon about how much they loved being pregnant. If I say anything they look at me like I'm the devil. I'm not sick or suffering (hats off to those who have complicated pregnancies) but I'm not enjoying it. I try to talk to my husband and he says " well what did you expect" and "isn't this what you wanted?". I'm not negative about it, but just some days struggle and end up in tears about how miserable I am. Is this the hormones? Now I'm worried that I will be a candidate for PND even moreso. I don't want to worry, but with everyone reacting to me like I'm super selfish for not 'enjoying it' its difficult to talk to anyone.
Last comment by lanes at 1:23 PM, 1 Sep 2014

Baby

2

Cloth nappies driving me nuts!

I really don't understand how cloth nappy people manage. I swear my 4 month old is a continuous stream of pee. I go to put a dry nappy on her to put her to bed, and she pees on the change table. I clean her up and put the nappy on, and she pees all over it as I'm doing it up. I take it off and get a fresh one, put it on, put her in bed, and she pees out the leg and all over the bedding. I give up and change her into a disposable and a clean swaddle. Then I have to rock her to sleep because by now she is really grumpy. She only sleeps for 40 mins so the disposable lasts until I'm ready to put her to bed the next time. End result: I have a hamper full of wet nappies to wash and I've STILL used just as many disposables as I would have had I not bothered with the cloth ones. What can I do differently to make this work?
Last comment by DeeDee at 9:55 PM, 1 Sep 2014
5

11 Days and still no poo!

Should I be worried? My breast fed 5 month old has not done any number 2's for 11 days now and before that it was a 8 day gap and before that it was a 7 day gap. I know they say its normal for breast fed babies to do this but I have even started introducing solids and still nothing. He ate a small bowl of pureed pear 2 days ago and still nothing. Any advice would be much appreciated!
Last comment by PieInTheSky at 1:49 PM, 28 Aug 2014

Little kids

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Natural bathing products

Hi there I need some help, I have a 14 month old who has very sensitive skin and suffers from excema and wondering if anyone has suggestions for some natural products to use on her skin and hair. Any recommendations would be much appreciated. Many thanks
Last comment by deenamathew at 9:17 PM, 22 Aug 2014
35

What do you do for childcare?

I'd be really interested to know what you mums do for childcare - when you first go back to work (assuming you do), when they are in school etc. Creche, au pairs, nannies? What's common in NZ? :)
Last comment by MiaCC at 8:50 PM, 5 May 2014

Big kids

43

Bible Studies and Opting Out

I read the article about Jeff McClintock objecting to the Bibles in Schools programme reducing teaching/learning time with interest. This issue resonates with me as we are currently living in a small rural community and my son is the only child in our local school to be opted out of the programme. As such, there is one morning a week where he starts the school day at 9.30am as the school have no provision for children not in the programme. He struggles to understand why he is different to the rest of the class as kids being kids, a number of them tease him for being late. He is a very quiet child and uncomfortable with attention so it makes it all the more difficult to try and slip into the class with the minimum of fuss. My personal view is that State run schools should be secular and I am staunchly opposed to the Bibles in Schools programme but with my older child the experience of opting out was seamless and easy. He was at a Primary School where the programme was run after lunch, was actively promoted to parents as being entirely voluntary and the kids who didn't participate were allowed to visit the library for half an hour. There was never an issue and my son was never made to feel different or weird. But all this being said, it is our choice to opt out and clearly we have to accept the consequences, but where is this teaching time made up? During Term 1 alone we have had a couple of half days due to Parent Teacher Interviews, School Athletics and at least two Teachers Only Days (apparently Easter Tuesday is now an official school holiday??!!). I am fortunate in that I have been able to shuffle my work days around to suit but I really do question how we would have been able to manage had my hubby and I both still been working full time. And most importantly, the pupils are still missing out on 20 hours teaching a year so I'm right behind you on this Jeff - I struggle to understand how and why we are just expected to accept this without question?
Last comment by hillbillygirl at 2:07 PM, 23 Mar 2014
10

What's the Tooth Fairy's going rate these days?

The son of a friend of mine lost his first tooth while staying at his grandparents. The tooth fairy there decided to give him $20 (!!!) for the tooth. Not a great precedent, and now he's got a second tooth loose, his parents want to know what a more realistic price might be. Any suggestions?
Last comment by AnKi at 4:30 PM, 10 Mar 2014

Family life

41

Are fathers important in their childrens lives?

My personal opinion is that yes they are very important. Which is why I was surprised to find this "parenting" site so PINK! I looked up pink to see what it meant and found this on the web : "pink is associated with sexuality, and purity. That is, a girl who is a virgin in heart and body." We, why are we going with a parenting sites designed for virgin's?? How about a more neutral colour and making a few dads feel welcome here. Maybe a change in name too like the posts in the Essential Dads thread that got shut down for some reason. Just my opinion. Was interested to know how other dads and mum felt about it?
Last comment by lanes at 1:28 PM, 28 Aug 2014
27

I want another baby - husband doesn't...

I am after a little advice. I am 36 and so definately fall in the older mum category... I met my husband 4 years ago and we discussed having children. He already had an 8yo from a previous relationship that is with us 50/50. I told him that I really wanted 4 kids, but would settle for 3 considering 'we' already had one. He told me that I could have as many as I wanted. Once we got engaged we talked about it again. I told him I wanted 3 biological and he said he wanted 1 more only. I told him that I did not want my child to be growing up alone (as their half sister would be over 10 years older so almost another parent, plus only with us half the time) and so I compromised again and said that I would agree to having 2 as a minimum and I wouldn't compromise again as I wanted 2 close together in age so they could play together. He agreed. We then got married and I now have a 21month old. I am wanting to TTC next year and had the discussion and was told that he had changed his mind, and doesnt' want any more, and I can't force someone to have a child when they don't want one. When I told him that he agreed prior to us getting married he told me that everyone can change their minds and he would prefer to pay the mortgage off faster than have another child. I am devestated. I feel like my family is incomplete, and I have no options as my husband says that he won't budge and will seriously have to look at our marriage if I push the issue... I only want my husband's children and I have no time to find another Mr right at my age anyway... I never wanted an only child which is pretty much what I have... and I don't want to 'accidentally' fall pregnant... anyone else been through this????
Last comment by at 10:28 PM, 15 Aug 2014

Mum's life

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Does anyone else hate being a stay-at-home mum (or dad)?

I have searched the internet, and can't find much for mothers that hate being stay-at-home mums (especially not in NZ). Is there anyone else out there that feels that way? From the way people talk on forums I get the idea this is not a problem for anyone else; but I thought I would reach out to see if anyone had something to say on the topic. Be interested to hear what you have to say.
Last comment by at 5:25 PM, 1 Sep 2014
4

Stay at home mum? Earn an Income?

Would anyone be interested in setting up a home based business? It is ideal for mums who want to stay at home with their children. If you would like to know more about this opportunity please send me a private message. I look forward to hearing from you. Laura x
Last comment by at 11:22 AM, 29 Aug 2014

General

13

To vaccinate or not?

I read a tragic story about a very young baby who died of whooping cough in Hawaii (the mother's blog is at http://www.natalienortonphoto.com/) - he contracted it at 8 weeks which is when babies (in the US at least) are to be vaccinated for it. So very very sad. Which got me thinking about vaccination. I've heard that choosing not to vaccinate puts your child and other children at risk - but I'd be interested to know why some parents choose not to? And is this a minority or quite common?
Last comment by at 9:12 AM, 29 Aug 2014
29

Anyone looked into cloth nappies?

I bought my first set of cloth nappies from a stand at a Parent & Child Expo. It was great becuase I could look, touch and try them, and ask questions. It was just one brand though, and there are so many different brands and styles and things to think about. Looking online just doesn't cut it becuase you can't compare and play with them. In the end I spent quite a chunk of money buying a variety from TradeMe before I settled on the system I was going to use. I wondered if this dificulty was a factor for other parents. Disposables aren't just convenient to use, they take absolutely no time at all to work out. And the cost benefits of cloth aren't that great if you go through the process I followed. What has your experience been? Did you consider cloth at all? If you use cloth, which ones do you use? If not, why did you choose disposables - just convenience, or were their other reasons too? NB people make the decisions that sit their own families, so disposables and cloth are just as good as each other in my opinion.
Last comment by MamaScamps at 10:00 PM, 28 Nov 2013
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