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Fiance wants a new baby I am unsure

I am after a little advice on this subject, I have been with my fiance (43) for 2years it is both a second marriage situation and we have 7 kids between us my youngest is 3 our his oldest is 21 and we have a 20yr 17yr and 14yr at home as well! I am 38 and have 3 grankids 0,1,2, my dilema is when we first met we were both of the opinion that we didnt want anymore kids, after the birth of granchild number 3 last week, my fiance is now all clucky and wants another baby that is ours, and cant understand why I am aprehensive to have another, its not that I dont want another but I am settled in work and not sure how I feel having a child that is younger than my granchildren, can anyone offer any words of wisdom on this subject?
Last comment by Sofarris at 11:06 PM, 22 Aug 2014
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Depression?

Just wondering who out there suffered depression while pregnant? I am 18 weeks pregnant with my first and have never been so unhappy. This has been getting worse the last few weeks and I have been afraid to tell anyone as this is supposed to be the best thing that has ever happened to me. I have tried talking to my partner who is very supportive but doesn't under stand what I'm going through. The main thing worrying me is losing my baby. I haven't felt it kick yet and it upsets me everyday. Can anyone help?
Last comment by deenamathew at 9:49 PM, 22 Aug 2014
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pregnancy syptoms

Hey. I am just wondering what the symptoms are of being pregnant. I realize not every woman has them, ie morning sickness . I have felt sick for ages, but the test always, (sadly), come back negative. W hay should i look out for? My stomach looks like im pregnant when Im not! Cheers
Last comment by deenamathew at 9:46 PM, 22 Aug 2014
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back ache

Hi ladies! just want to know if anyone has or have had bad back ache during early pregnancy? im 8 weeks along and today ive had bad back ache , especially when i sit down with a few mild cramps. i have had one miscarriage and have one healthy 15 month old . im just not shure whether to be worried or not????
Last comment by deenamathew at 9:37 PM, 22 Aug 2014

Pregnancy

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pregnancy syptoms

Hey. I am just wondering what the symptoms are of being pregnant. I realize not every woman has them, ie morning sickness . I have felt sick for ages, but the test always, (sadly), come back negative. W hay should i look out for? My stomach looks like im pregnant when Im not! Cheers
Last comment by deenamathew at 9:46 PM, 22 Aug 2014
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Trouble Sleeping during Pregnancy

HI, I am studying as a Maternity and Child Sleep Consultant and we have been asked to research and survey expectant mums in regards to the sleep issues they may have when pregnant. Is anyone able to tell me how their sleep is during pregnancy? And maybe what sort of support would be helpful to you? Any reply's that I receive will be much appreciated and also not shared with anyone but my teacher.
Last comment by deenamathew at 9:31 PM, 22 Aug 2014

Baby

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Baby sleeps 45mins

My 12 week old started cat napping from about 8 weeks and I'm still battling it! Mainly i'm trying to give her one long stretch in the middle of the day but it takes 45mins - 1 hr to get her back to sleep. I'm wondering if it's worth battling.. but 4-5 naps a day seems crazy. She's great sleeping all night with a dream feed.. but often wakes 45mins after being put to bed for the night but self settles well then. Any solutions that have worked for you?
Last comment by deenamathew at 9:23 PM, 22 Aug 2014
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Baby has started crying all night

My 8 month old has never been a great night sleeper, and has only recently started sleeping through the night from 8pm to 5am. However now once she goes to bed, she wakes up about 10 and starts crying. And doesn't stop. This goes on all night. Rocking her sort of calms her but as soon as she goes down again she starts again. This has been going on all week, and I have no idea whats going on! Any ideas would be great.
Last comment by deenamathew at 9:01 PM, 22 Aug 2014

Little kids

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Natural bathing products

Hi there I need some help, I have a 14 month old who has very sensitive skin and suffers from excema and wondering if anyone has suggestions for some natural products to use on her skin and hair. Any recommendations would be much appreciated. Many thanks
Last comment by deenamathew at 9:17 PM, 22 Aug 2014
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To ECE or not to ECE: my dilemma

Hey all, I am a mother of one 3 and a half year old boy. He currently does not attend any sort of daycare or kindy. I am 20 weeks pregnant with our second child and I am after a few insights into weather I should enrol him now, or just stick with what we are doing at home. We have a local daycare centre and the nearest 'kindy' is about 15 minutes drive from here. I am really not sure what it is that they learn from a 'pre-school' situation and I don't like the idea of him feeling like I send him to this new place with lots of other kids because I need to spend time with the baby, there seems to be a 'but why isn't he at kindy' mentality around NZ and I am not sure if I am holding him back or if he is actually learning everything he needs to here at home. He is a very smart child who speaks pretty clearly, enjoys learning, is only shy in very new and unfamiliar situations and of course loves running around outside, digging for worms, riding his bike or playing at a playground. I am at a crossroads and not sure where to head next and Dad hasn't had much of an opinion to help sway in either direction. Am after comments and advice from those who have gone before me...
Last comment by at 12:06 PM, 22 Aug 2014

Big kids

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Bible Studies and Opting Out

I read the article about Jeff McClintock objecting to the Bibles in Schools programme reducing teaching/learning time with interest. This issue resonates with me as we are currently living in a small rural community and my son is the only child in our local school to be opted out of the programme. As such, there is one morning a week where he starts the school day at 9.30am as the school have no provision for children not in the programme. He struggles to understand why he is different to the rest of the class as kids being kids, a number of them tease him for being late. He is a very quiet child and uncomfortable with attention so it makes it all the more difficult to try and slip into the class with the minimum of fuss. My personal view is that State run schools should be secular and I am staunchly opposed to the Bibles in Schools programme but with my older child the experience of opting out was seamless and easy. He was at a Primary School where the programme was run after lunch, was actively promoted to parents as being entirely voluntary and the kids who didn't participate were allowed to visit the library for half an hour. There was never an issue and my son was never made to feel different or weird. But all this being said, it is our choice to opt out and clearly we have to accept the consequences, but where is this teaching time made up? During Term 1 alone we have had a couple of half days due to Parent Teacher Interviews, School Athletics and at least two Teachers Only Days (apparently Easter Tuesday is now an official school holiday??!!). I am fortunate in that I have been able to shuffle my work days around to suit but I really do question how we would have been able to manage had my hubby and I both still been working full time. And most importantly, the pupils are still missing out on 20 hours teaching a year so I'm right behind you on this Jeff - I struggle to understand how and why we are just expected to accept this without question?
Last comment by hillbillygirl at 2:07 PM, 23 Mar 2014
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What's the Tooth Fairy's going rate these days?

The son of a friend of mine lost his first tooth while staying at his grandparents. The tooth fairy there decided to give him $20 (!!!) for the tooth. Not a great precedent, and now he's got a second tooth loose, his parents want to know what a more realistic price might be. Any suggestions?
Last comment by AnKi at 4:30 PM, 10 Mar 2014

Family life

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Fiance wants a new baby I am unsure

I am after a little advice on this subject, I have been with my fiance (43) for 2years it is both a second marriage situation and we have 7 kids between us my youngest is 3 our his oldest is 21 and we have a 20yr 17yr and 14yr at home as well! I am 38 and have 3 grankids 0,1,2, my dilema is when we first met we were both of the opinion that we didnt want anymore kids, after the birth of granchild number 3 last week, my fiance is now all clucky and wants another baby that is ours, and cant understand why I am aprehensive to have another, its not that I dont want another but I am settled in work and not sure how I feel having a child that is younger than my granchildren, can anyone offer any words of wisdom on this subject?
Last comment by Sofarris at 11:06 PM, 22 Aug 2014
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Are fathers important in their childrens lives?

My personal opinion is that yes they are very important. Which is why I was surprised to find this "parenting" site so PINK! I looked up pink to see what it meant and found this on the web : "pink is associated with sexuality, and purity. That is, a girl who is a virgin in heart and body." We, why are we going with a parenting sites designed for virgin's?? How about a more neutral colour and making a few dads feel welcome here. Maybe a change in name too like the posts in the Essential Dads thread that got shut down for some reason. Just my opinion. Was interested to know how other dads and mum felt about it?
Last comment by Sofarris at 9:20 PM, 21 Aug 2014

Mum's life

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No longer the same couple

Our son is 14 months old, should be the happiest time in our lifes? Thats what I thought anyway.. gave up work as there wasnt a part time option and now at home very depressed, feel like a different person and have absoultley nothing to talk with my husband about and I am resenting him as seems as though his life hasnt had to change so much... has anyone else found themselves in this situation? I'm constantly worried about never getting work again and relying on my husband...
Last comment by at 8:37 PM, 22 Aug 2014
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Stay at home mum? Earn an Income?

Would anyone be interested in setting up a home based business? It is ideal for mums who want to stay at home with their children. If you would like to know more about this opportunity please send me a private message. I look forward to hearing from you. Laura x
Last comment by Harry12 at 1:03 PM, 22 Aug 2014

General

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Baby in the pub?

What are your thoughts on taking babies out and about with you when they’re little? Would you go to the pub with a baby in tow? What about a rugby game or a movie? Or do you think that’s what babysitters are for?
Last comment by deenamathew at 8:53 PM, 22 Aug 2014
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To vaccinate or not?

I read a tragic story about a very young baby who died of whooping cough in Hawaii (the mother's blog is at http://www.natalienortonphoto.com/) - he contracted it at 8 weeks which is when babies (in the US at least) are to be vaccinated for it. So very very sad. Which got me thinking about vaccination. I've heard that choosing not to vaccinate puts your child and other children at risk - but I'd be interested to know why some parents choose not to? And is this a minority or quite common?
Last comment by Sofarris at 9:24 PM, 20 Aug 2014
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